I work hard – answer every email, move every project forward, say yes to anything that looks like an opportunity. And yet, every now and then, I feel the familiar sting of frustration. I’m not sad, and I’m not tired in the usual way – something in me is just restless.
Sound familiar?
For a long time (and often – still) I thought frustration meant I wasn’t trying hard enough and had to give even more – get organized in a better way, get up earlier, take on more. I was – incidentally – doing the exact opposite of what I needed.
In Human Design, frustration is no accident. It is the signal of Generators and Manifesting Generators – the two types that together make up around 70% of people (more about them in “The five Human Design types”). For someone designed to respond to – people, projects, ideas, visuals – frustration works like a warning light on the dashboard: it tells you that you’ve made a decision that isn’t right for you, or got involved in something that isn’t yours.
You’re designed to respond, not to initiate, because your energy comes as a surge or an ebb in response to something . When you decide with your mind and push yourself because “that’s what you’re supposed to do” – the energy doesn’t follow, rational decisions pull you off course, and your body experiences it as frustration.
Frustration has another, quite different side, too – it shows up when you’re learning something new and haven’t mastered it yet. That tension is part of the path, not a signal to stop. And your body can tell the difference: when you’re caught up in something that isn’t yours, frustration contracts and drains you; when you’re learning, there’s life in it and movement forward.
Frustration isn’t failure. It’s a compass.
These days, (most of the time) when I feel frustrated, I stop. I don’t push harder – I stop initiating and wait for something to respond to. I ask my body which of the things on my list bring a surge of energy and which I’ve simply added because I once said yes. Frustration fades not when I push harder, but when I come back to what I truly respond to.
When did you last feel a real surge of energy towards something?
Do you notice frustration in your body before it turns into exhaustion? And at work – are you moving projects you respond to, or committing out of obligation?
Where to from here?
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